How do you Want to Die: A Workshop and Performance with Death Doulas Saralee Gallien and Roxanne Baker | Recess

october, 2016

29oct7:00 pm- 9:00 pmHow do you Want to Die: A Workshop and Performance with Death Doulas Saralee Gallien and Roxanne BakerCanaries: Refuge in the Means


Event Details

[Image: Stone coffin lids laid on the dirt, sitting in front of a large stack of broken stone pieces. Some tress and hills in the distance]

We dream and scheme and plan almost every aspect of our lives: linked Google calendars, Facebook event schedule reminders, FitBit steps and Apple bedtime apps, etc. For some Americans almost every bodily function and logistical aspect of their day is timed, dated, and reminded. We plan our careers and dreams of retirement, we schedule when we will have our babiesㅡsometimes even down to the hour with the option of scheduled cesareans. We plan getaway vacations, timed and crunched in between the rest of life. We will plan almost anything, except for our deaths.

This evening we will focus on the questions we all too often fail to ask one another, like: how do you want to die? Saralee Gallien and Roxanne Baker will discuss their work as death doulas and care practitioners within our death-phobic culture. In this workshop, participants will be encouraged to record their death fantasies and fill out advanced directives. The workshop and performance will be followed by a reception to celebrate the conclusion (death) of Refuge in the Means.

Access Information: The entrance to Recess is up four steps and a portable aluminum ramp is installed for the duration of this event. The bathroom is all-gender, ADA approved with three grab bars. The space is scent-free. We ask that attendees come fragrance-free to maintain this. (Information on how to reduce scent and be truly fragrance-free here). This event is low light, meaning there is ample lighting but fluorescent overhead lighting is not in use. A variety of seating options are available including: sturdy metal folding chairs without armrests, a high sturdy wooden bench, a low couch, floor mats, and cushions. Ample floor space is available for free movement within the space. For the comfort of attendees, space is limited and will be available on a first come first served basis. This event begins at 7PM and ends at 9 PM but attendees are welcome to come late, leave early, and intermittently come and go as they please. Water and tea  will be provided. The oral reading will be transcribed and projected. The Canaries and Recess will document the event photographically and only with the consent of all its participants. Any individuals who wish to document the event should also gain the consent of all participants before doing so. We ask that you do not use flash photography. If you want to attend but are unable to attend, we are happy to live video conference call you into the event. Limited street parking is available nearby. Parking in the vicinity is free after 6 PM. The closest MTA subway stations are the Canal Street 1 and the Canal Street A, C, E. These stations are not wheelchair accessible. The closest wheelchair accessible station is the Chambers Street 1, 2, 3 and a bit further, the West 4th Street A, C, E. This event is free ($0) and open to the public. Please let us know if you would like ASL interpretation, live video conference call meeting, or any other access needs as soon as possible: We will work with you to support your needs and comfort. Bio: Roxanne and Saralee are dear friends and co-conspirators living in Durham, North Carolina. This fall marks their sixth year of collaborating to build a life that acknowledges all the joy and suffering of being alive, and with that embracing the imminence and mystery of death. From our proximity to death in hospitals, hospice, and homes as caretakers and future nurses, our hope in sharing this work is to break down fear and alienation that causes us to deny the presence of death in our society.


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